How to Overcome ‘Victim Mindset’

victim mindset

Ever feel like nothing is going your way?

You know…

You got food on your pants.

That Big Client you wanted to work for won’t return your emails.

Your spouse is pissed at you (again).

Your clients are all upset – for one reason or another.

And you’re kicking yourself for not buying Bitcoin when it was 5 bucks.

We’ve all been there.

But… if you ever find yourself dwelling on the negative, over and over again….

Or you find you are spending a lot of time focusing on forces that are conspiring against you (like people who make you made) rather than appreciating the good which is all around you….

Well, I call this “victim mindset.”

What is Victim Mindset?

It’s a mental state where you focus on being a victim of the negative actions of others, often in spite of evidence of other positive circumstances.

A LOT of people struggle with this.

And it’s a major problem because when you dwell on negativity, it is hard to generate the energy and focus to produce positive results in your life (tweet this).

In other words, why fight for justice when the world is conspiring against you, or when the system is rigged?

Sometimes we even see politicians who have this victim mindset, focusing only on negative forces (real or perceived).

I’ve found in recent years that one of the best things you can do to improve your circumstances and grow your business is to overcome victim mindset.

So how do you overcome a victim mindset?

1 – Practice Gratitude Daily

I try to practice gratitude daily, because when you focus on the things you are appreciative of, it improves your mental well-being and leads to greater happiness.

Here’s how you do it. First, keep it very simple. Each morning, write down 3 things you are grateful for. It should take no more than 30 seconds.

I do this on the paper planners I created for myself and fill out each day. You can also check out the awesome 5 Minute Journal (referral link) if you want a daily journal to keep you focused on writing out your gratitude items.

2 – Let Go of Your Bitterness

When you suffer from Victim Mindset, then you become bitter and resentful at the world around you.

There’s a saying about resentment. “Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”

What that means is that you are only harming yourself by being resentful. So you need to let go.

Fortunately, there does not need to be a big climactic and emotional apology to anyone, like an ABC Reality TV show.

You can release your resentment now. Today. This hour. Just let it go.

Remember: the resentment you harbor towards any one person, group of people, or organization is only hurting YOU. So releasing it is doing yourself a favor.

3 – Begin Anew

The new year is a time for starting new practices and new habits, which reinforce a practice focused on gratitude and turning away from resentment and bitterness.

Wow, does that ever sound “woo woo.” I guess I’ve been living in San Francisco for too long. But it’s true.

So take the time now to start new practices. Maybe it’s writing down the 3 things you are grateful for each morning right after you get to the office.

Or maybe it’s listening for when you marinate in anger on a person or groups of people.  

Or maybe it’s joining a new community of people who embrace gratitude in their lives and who will encourage and support you as you move away from anger and resentment.

Whatever you do, get started today.

If you want a more hands on support and coaching from me, then check out the Revenue Booster Live virtual training I’m co-hosting with my business partner Dr. Jeremy Weisz this Thursday, December 14, at 11am PST / 2pm EST.

You can get all the details here.

This is a one-time-only live 90-minute training event and customized Q & A with two goals –

(1) to help you to generate quick revenue in your business

(2) to save you time by building a foundation for your “one to many” leveraged and profitable group program (the one you’ve always wanted to create).  

It’s this Thursday, December 14th at 11am PST / 2pm EST. (If you can’t show up live, we’ll send you the recording.)

Now, we normally charge $5,000 per person for 2 ½ day Rise25 retreats where people get high level training and work one-on-one with us. For this 90 minute paid training though, we’re charging just $97.  You can reserve your spot here

Why so affordable?

Simple. We want to help YOU make 2018 the best year yet and give you the “push” you need before the new year so you are focusing on the RIGHT actions and not the wrong ones.

Here’s what you get…

  • LIVE 90-minute Revenue Booster Live training to get you more clients in 2018, plus Q&A to answer your specific questions.
  • Lifetime access to our full Revenue Booster program (the new and improved Revenue Booster 2.0 coming in early 2018) which shows you how to launch your own scaleable group program.
  • a “one on one” strategy call with us, where our goal is to help you to identify fast-cash revenue opportunities, strategize positioning, pricing & your offers, and review your Dream Product Ladder exercise & provide feedback on where you can generate more revenue fast.

In Revenue Booster Live, we cover how to design a profitable program that you can sell over and over again, how to get paid before you even create your own program, how to make your first sales quickly (some of our students are making sales within days of signing up), the 3 big mistakes to avoid which could cripple your business and will hold you back from growing, and more.

This material gets our members tremendous results and it includes exact email templates that get a 90% response, phone scripts that help you get feedback from real customers telling you the price they would pay and much more.

For example…

  • We helped web designer Matt generate $3,000 in sales from his small email list by crafting an offer which his email subscribers LOVED…
  • Mark got a verbal order for $25,000 within minutes after we helped him go back to his past clients with a new offer…
  • And we actually had one of our members who used this material get commitments of $5,300 for a new group program she hadn’t even created yet.  
  • Now here’s the bad news.

This may be your last chance to work with us through our Revenue Booster program for quite some time, because after Revenue Booster Live, we’ve decided to take the program off the market so we can revamp it.

Meaning it is now or never.

The good news for you though is if you sign up now, you get the live training, and you also will get the revamped “Revenue Booster 2.0” when we update the program and a one on one strategy call with us.

You can reserve your spot here.

So if you’ve been thinking about adding new revenue streams to your business, or if you’ve been thinking about working with us, now is the time.

Photo credit: Pablo Varela on Unsplash

 

Comments

  1. Hi John,

    It’s great to read your post. I was busy with my projects, that’s the reason I was inactive a bit, specially reading & commenting was completely off.

    Anyways, I completely agree with your points,Being free minded and positive is important these days, so I appreciate your efforts for giving these tips. Great work.

    ~ Donna

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